Don’t Pillow Fight With The Dead

    Saturday, February 6th, 2010

    Shoot!  I was cruising my friends’ facebook pages, checking out latest photos, laughing over the running jokes that never get old – and then I found it.  Facebook, in its wisdom, suggested I re-connect with Tracy Young.  “Good idea,” I thought.  Tracy’s mom died in December.  I hadn’t written on his wall since December 20, when I sent my condolences.  When I clicked on his page, I started to type a “Hey how are you…” message.  Then I noticed the post below mine read, “I miss you, Tracy” and the one below that, “You will be missed greatly.”  and below that…well, some bonehead started a Tweety Bird Pillow fight with Tracy.  But below that, and below that… I realized people were expressing sorrow over his death.  Wow.  So much can happen in a month.

    Tracy loved Jesus.  He sought to model his life after Christ and I am confident that he is rejoicing right now with his Momma and His Savior.  Of that I have no doubt.  (not even a smidge of wonder)

    What this made me pause and wonder about is, what happens to all of our oh-so-personal social networking contact when we die?   His last Twitter tweet was: “After tennis shoe bomber we had to take off our shoes in line. After underwear bomber, do we have to…?”  I chuckled out loud.  That thought will remain in cyberspace unanswered.

    He “followed” me on Twitter…Will my tweets just keep showing up in an inbox that will never be read?  Will people click on his name and, not realizing that he passed away, just figure he got ‘too lazy’ or ‘too busy’ to make any more humorous quips?  For how long might my blog posts wind up on an email server that no one will download?  Will people who never actually go onto his facebook profile to connect continue to invite him to Farmville and to join them in pillow fights?

    It is bizarre to me.  A couple of Tracy’s final status updates were:

    (from December 26) “A few neighbors already have their Christmas trees at the curb…couldn’t wait at least through the weekend, Scrooge?”

    (from December 25) “Merry Christmas to all my Christian friends.  Merry X-mas to my non-Christian friends.  Happy Holidays to my enemies.”

    He was a funny dude.  He wrote a couple of books and we used a quote of his in Radical Love…Forever Changed. I’m so glad we did.  Anyways – not sure what point I have in writing tonight, other than a life lesson I will live by is to not start a pillow fight with someone who is gone.  That’s all I’ve got.

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    Peace.

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    Lost and Found

    Thursday, January 28th, 2010

    LostandFoundChurch-goers were able to scan a table of lost and found items at our church this past Sunday, seeking their lost treasures.  I thought it quite humorous that the majority of items on this table were glasses.  Some quite thick, likely much needed, glasses.  How did these poor souls get home?  And judging by lens strength of some of them, I guarantee these people will never be able to find their way back to the church.  We should get a team out into the city, looking for people wandering around squinting at street signs and venturing into traffic.  There were also a couple sets of keys, a few Bibles, daytimers and a bit of jewelry.

    With the exception of the gold leopard broach with ruby eyes, most of the items appeared, in my opinion, to have some importance.  How do you get home without keys?  How do you see without glasses?  How do you read God’s Word without your Bible?

    My son is allergic to peanuts.  I carry an epipen with us, in case of accidental peanut contact.  At first, I carried that epipen everywhere with me.  I wouldn’t let him out of my sight without knowing that someone in the vicinity had, and could work, the epipen.  Over time, I have relaxed my epipen intensity.  Often I forget it at home.  Some of our friends probably don’t even know of his allergy.  The further away from the tragedy of his first allergic reaction we are, the less hold it has over our minds.  The epipen could easily end up on the Lost and Found table, and I likely wouldn’t even notice.  Until a crucial moment when I needed it.

    Our trust in God can be a bit like the epipen.  Initially, when we have a moment of crisis and recognize a need for God, we lean into Him continually.  We pray throughout our day, we talk to others about faith matters, we read the Scriptures that provide us comfort.  Then, as crisis subsides, we talk less.  We pray less.  We acknowledge Him less.  Pretty soon our trust in Him is on the Lost and Found table… and we are not even aware of its absence in our lives.  Until it is needed again, in another moment of crisis.

    Here is a little something to think about… the amount of space you give God in your every day, non-crisis moments will directly impact your ability to handle crisis when it comes.  Don’t wait for crisis and then find out that your faith is on a table, in a church, 9 miles away.  Connect with Him now.  Your faith may feel like it is elsewhere, but He isn’t.  He’s sitting beside you, waiting and ready.

    Peace.

    P.S. Writing this has encouraged me to re-ignite my epipen diligence.  Matters of life and death should never be taken lightly.  Epipen AND faith both fall into this category!

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    Are You Widget-Wild?

    Thursday, January 21st, 2010

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    When I began blogging in 2006, the primary way I found new blogs was through the homepage of the blog service that I used at the time, Toadfire.  All of our blogs looked the same, had the same color scheme and 3 main features: recent posts, search and comments.  Since then, the process of finding new and interesting people has become as easy as grabbing my morning coffee.  Nearly every day I come across a new blogger who, like me, just loves to write.  Sites have become extremely interesting because the average Joe & Jane with a keyboard can build his or her own creative online home to house their content.

    I want to share three tips for blogging.  Well, not so much for blogging – but for setting up your site.  As a blogger, I desire to build relationships with the people reading.  Some bloggers’ sites do this well, others not so much.

    1. Have a place on your site where you clearly state your purpose for writing.  Even if you write about “anything and everything,” you should still give readers a snapshot of why your perspective on “anything and everything” is different.

    Bad example:  “I write about whatever comes to mind”
    Good example: “Perspectives from a big-city girl”

    2. Pick colors and background images for your site that fit your purpose.  If your purpose in writing is to explore the deeper issues of life, a background that has puppy dogs and kitty cats sends a conflicting message.  Yet I quite often come across this very kind of confusion.  It is hard for readers to connect with you if they aren’t quite sure who you are.

    3. Avoid the temptation to go widget-wild!  Widgets provide the bling for your site.  They can add so much value – but know when to stop.  I came across a site today in desperate need of widget-intervention.  The purpose statement indicated that the writer works for an ethnic publication.  Here are the widgets on his home page:

    • NASDAQ ticker banner
    • International time clock
    • Randomly generated “US Bill of Rights” statement
    • “Word of the Day”
    • Posts from other bloggers (not the links, post summaries)
    • “The latest in Iran”
    • 4 advertisements for health and weight loss products – yes, 4
    • Calendar
    • Two twitter links
    • ABC News Updates
    • Popular sports headlines

    As I explored his posts, some of the content did indeed relate to human right issues, the financial state of the nation and the world, popular culture and media – so I could connect the dots with a little work.  Here’s the thing…. most people aren’t going to work at it.  They will decide in the first few seconds if your blog is something that they can relate to or not.  They will decide if the overall look and feel of the site draws them in or adds confusion.  If your site looks like a mess, readers will think that your thoughts are a mess.  And they won’t come back.

    You will gain greater satisfaction from your writing  and will find it easier to be consistent if you follow these three solid suggestions upfront.

    Stay focused and keep writing!

    Peace.

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