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    Strawberry Margarita

    Saturday, July 10th, 2010

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    Lips are moving, eyes are directed at me, but I can’t hear a word being said.   The bubble of fog surrounding my head makes me feel a bit like I am wearing Buzz Lightyear’s space helmet. “I’m sorry, what did you say?”  I ask Jenny (who is scraping my feet with a cheese grater-like tool).

    “That is a nice color,” she repeats, indicating the small bottle that I am holding.

    “Thanks.” I wonder: Why did I say “thanks”?  I didn’t make the color.  I didn’t even bring the color with me from home.  I simply took it off of her nail polish shelf and am waiting to hand it to her.

    I slip back into my happy place.

    The nail salon always has this affect on me.  From the second I arrive until I leave, I exist in a haze. I can’t hear, think straight or answer questions properly.  It is possibly brought on from the incense burning before the Sacred Heart Jesus picture.  Or perhaps weird fruit fumes emanate from the giant bowl of kiwi offered up to an unknown deity on the shelf below Jesus.  Most likely it is from the methyl methacrylate particles that saturate the counters, chairs and the technicians.  Whatever the reason, my body refuses to be able to participate in the idle chatter that seems to come so easy for other patrons in the salon.

    The teacher from Saskatoon, the lady preparing for a trip to Vancouver, the gal who works at the bank… all yukking it up with their technicians.  I wonder if Jenny feels left out because I have nothing to chat about?

    There is an older man getting a pedicure right across from me.  “Do you cook Vietnamese food every day?” He asks the woman working on his feet.

    “Yeah, yeah.” she replies quickly.

    “Wow!  You must have to plan that out at the beginning of the week!” he says with shock in his voice.

    Really? I wonder again:  Did he really just say that?  She IS Vietnamese.  Why is it shocking? He kept talking, “The Vietnamese have taken over the manicure-pedicure business big time, haven’t they?”

    She giggled and said, “Yeah, yeah.” again.

    “Quite the assembly line you’ve got here.” he observes.  After that I mentally checked out.  I had to stop listening because his comments made me uncomfortable and I wasn’t sure what to do with that.  I retreated to my bubble and enjoyed the remainder of my pedicure in my own head.  I look at Jesus, staring solemnly from the shelf and wonder if His eyes are as glazed over as mine.

    I am thankful for the cheese grater, the lotion, the warm towels and the massage chair.  I am thankful for Jenny and that she didn’t try and engage me in small talk, and I pray that the woman working on the brazen, inappropriate man doesn’t really understand what he is saying.  I am thankful for Strawberry Margarita pink polish and for the coffee awaiting me after I leave.  And as I step out into the sun and the warmth of summer brings the sounds and colors of the world to life around me again, I am thankful that I can express all of these thoughts to help clear my foggy head.

    Peace.

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    Copy Cats

    Sunday, July 4th, 2010

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    Whenever we have more than just our family of 5 riding in the minivan, I get stuck in the very back, seated between Cooper and Ben.  Yesterday, on our way to Canada Day festivities, my boys thought it would be funny to repeat everything I said.  It started when I asked my husband to turn down the radio.  They chirped, “Colin, please turn down the radio.”

    He asked me when the activities began and I said, “I think the parade starts at 10.”  And the boys said, “I think the parade starts at 10.”   On it went.

    I thought I’d get cute with it and I said, “We have the best Mommy in the world.” So my boys repeated, “We have the best Mommy in the world.”   Then I said, “We will do whatever she asks us to do.”  So they said, “We will do whatever she asks us to do.”  And I said, “We will clean our room when we get home.”  They said, “We will clean our room when we get home.”

    The silliness ended when we got to the parade and our focus diverted elsewhere.  The boys had no intention of cleaning their room and as far as the accolades to my fabulous parenting – well, in those moments, their words didn’t mean anything.  They were mere empty phrases.

    Last night, I woke Ben from his peaceful slumber at 9:45 pm.  Even though he was the sleepiest boy on the planet, I dressed him, strapped him in the car, and took him down to the lake to watch the fireworks.  He was a grumpy but willing companion.  I even stopped and bought him hot cocoa along the way.  We sat huddled together under a blanket.  When the awesome display of colors, twinkling lights, and fire comets streamed across the sky he perked up considerably.  He had never seen fireworks before.  He was awestruck.  About 10 minutes into the show he hugged me tight and said, “You are the best Mom in the world.  Thank you for bringing me here.”

    THAT was genuine.  THAT was his heart speaking.

    Many parenting fads are geared towards evoking appropriate behavioral responses from children.  Using bribery, time outs, with-holding privileges, etc. we hope to change kids’ minds about their behavior.  But do these build a heart response?  Or are they simply teaching kids how to provide empty actions?  It is in the moments that we display our genuine love and affection for our children that their heart response strengthens.

    I don’t want copy cat children.  I want the heart response.  It is a more narrow path because it is infinitely more work.  However, one genuine hug is worth it.

    ~ Peace.

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    Love Wins

    Wednesday, June 23rd, 2010

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    I smelled something.

    My name is Pumpkin.  We had been riding in the car for days and each time we stopped, my entire head throbbed with exciting new smells.  From the intoxicating odor that rose up from the roads to the most wonderful chow that master called “fast food” to the rough carpets of the hotel room floors – I was in heaven.  But now – I smelled something I hadn’t smelled before and I didn’t like it.  It was a sour, rotting smell – and it burned my nose.  It made me want to run away… yet my legs wouldn’t move.  I could feel my chest pound and I had the urge to urinate.  I looked to my master to see what he did.  He always knows what to do and I trusted that he would show me.

    Then I saw him.  Another dog.  He hid behind his master’s legs and quivered.  It was hard to tell just how big he was because he seemed to be trying to disappear.  The smell came from him.  He was terrified.  His eyes looked toward us, but were not focused.  It was as if he was trying to will himself invisible. (I do that when I am sneaking up on a sandwich)

    My master, Richard, lowered himself to the carpet.  He reached for the dog, whom they called “Mel”.  Richard’s face was relaxed and I could see the same affection as he looked at this fear-filled dog that he has when he looks at me.  I knew right away that this little guy was to be a part of our family.  I also knew that I had an important role to play.

    Mel stayed firmly put behind the other man’s legs.  I took a cautious step toward him.  I looked hard at his face and told him with my eyes that everything would be ok.  I wagged my tail; but just a little bit, so as not to frighten him further.  The cautious pup peeked at me.  Then took a step.  And another.  Soon our noses were touching and I whispered in his ear, “He won’t hurt you.”  It sounded more like a sniff and blowing of air, but he got the message.  He relaxed a bit and came with us.

    That night, the poor little guy decided to stay in the corner of our cabin.  The shaking came and went.  He was the quietest thing I ever saw.  The next night, he came and slept beside me and my masters.  I knew they were going to count on me to help Mel feel safe.  I became his protector.  Now, I am his voice when he needs to go out.  I let our masters know when the sadness returns – and we comfort him.  No one will ever hurt him again.

    I sometimes hear my master talk about the things poor Mel went through.  As best as I can explain, Mel used to be what is called a bait dog for a dog fighting ring.  Torturous things like electrocution, beatings, time spent on a rape stand, and other horrors happened to Mel and the other dogs who were found with him.   When the people talk about it, there is a place inside of me that feels that fear that I smelled in Mel.  How can people do those things to dogs?  Do they not know that we just want them to play with us and give us an occasional “good boy”?  If there is an extra steak to go ’round that’s ok too.  If not, we’ll eat our dog chow and be grateful for it.

    The man who was responsible for what happened to Mel was a man named Michael Vick.  I used to watch him play football for the Atlanta Falcons.  (On weekends, Richard and I occasionally eat chips and watch sports on TV)  He went to prison for 21 months for what he did to Mel and the others.  But now… he is once again playing professional football on TV.  I don’t think I can ever watch him play again.  How can the people who run the NFL allow him to represent their organization?  Sure, we all make mistakes… (once, when I was a puppy I ate Richard’s favorite pair of shoes) but some things are a privilege, not a right.  I wonder what someone would have to do in order to be deemed ineligible to represent a professional team seeking to be role models for an entire city?  Or is it all about what the people call “money”?  I do not understand money – I only know good and evil.  Mel will have a place of suffering in the pit of his stomach forever.  What happened to him was evil.

    I know we can’t take away Mel’s past, but we are trying our best to show him that our love for him will win over the dark places.  It sounds like there are others like Mel out there.  I only hope there are more people like my master and the people at Best Friends Animal Society to rescue them.

    ** Pumpkin is a 13-year old terrier.  Dallas talk show host Richard Hunter and his wife traveled to Best Friends Animal Society last September with Pumpkin to rescue Mel, one of the 22 dogs who were abused by Michael Vick – then an Atlanta Falcon professional football player.  The NFL has reinstated Michael Vick following his 21 month prison sentence and he is playing professional football for the Philadelphia Eagles.

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